Benefits of choosing a waterbirth

Benefits of choosing a waterbirth 

Water birth is a transforming step into motherhood as well as an incredible way to manage the waves of pain in labor. Some women have even said that in comparing their water birth to their birth laying in a hospital bed freeing and empowering. The ability to have control over their body while bringing their baby earth side being one of the  many benefits to a water birth.

 72.3% of women who had waterbirths stated that they would certainly choose this method of giving birth again.

Women who have chosen to have a waterbirth have said they experienced the following:

  • An increase in having a hands free birth (if you choose too.)
  • Decrease in tearing.
  • Less pain with contractions.
  • Shorter births. 
  • Being in the water allows your pregnant body the relief of buoyancy. Changing positions much easier and letting your body float between contractions if you wish is much added pain relief. 
  • Decreases chances of unnecessary medical intervention.

During my water birth, just the first 5 minutes through the hard waves of contractions I immediately noticed the difference in my pain tolerance. Although my body has a high pain tolerance and given that I have a history with precipitous labor, the pain relief of just being in warm water was indescribable and much easier to manage my pain. I would recommend a water birth to any of my friends, family and clients. 

Source: https://evidencebasedbirth.com/waterbirth/

Water Birth History

Giving birth in water, rather than labouring in air is a relatively recent development in the Western world. The first water birth in Europe that we know about was in 1803 in France. A mother whose labour had been extremely long and difficult was finally helped to give birth in a tub of warm water.

 In the 1960s, the Russian water birth pioneer Igor Tjarkovsky experimented with babies being born into cold rather than warm water. His thinking was that this would help protect the baby's brain and enhance the baby's cognitive abilities. Understandably, this approach to water birth didn’t last long! 

Next, in the 1970s, some midwives and doctors in France became interested in ways of helping babies make the transition from life in the womb (uterus) to life outside as smoothly as possible, by using warm water. 

Their concern was that modern maternity care, with all of its interventions, was making birth traumatic for babies. Some doctors, including French obstetrician Frederick Leboyer, thought babies could be affected for life by the way they came into the world. 

Leboyer's approach was to use a warm bath for the newborn baby a short time after the birth, after a period of skin-to-skin with the mother and a natural third stage. Leboyer's work influenced our next water-birth champion, the French obstetrician Michel Odent, who installed birth pools in each room at the birth unit where he worked in France. 

Odent noticed that as well as helping women cope with the pain of childbirth, being immersed in water seemed to help labour progress. He found that water births also seemed to offer babies a more peaceful journey from the womb into their mums' arms. Babies are bathed in warm water as they emerge from the birth canal, and the pool environment feels similar to the enveloping warmth of the womb. 

Doctors and midwives noted how calm babies were after they had been born in water. They cried less than babies born in air. They appeared more relaxed and were eager to have eye contact with their mums and to breastfeed

Becoming Doula

Becoming Doula 

I had my first baby when I was 20 years old. I was and am a young mother but I would not have it any other way. Some would say that I might have thrown my life away but I like to say that I opened doors of new opportunities. I have learned that love is more than skin deep. I am more connected to my body because of birth. It has changed me in ways I can't explain. As most mothers know. The instant you get that positive pregnancy test in moments time you become a mother. Your life is forever changed. 

When I learned I was pregnant so many emotions were felt but the one thing I remember was that I was starting this incredible journey of sharing my body with another tiny human. I would literally grow a human being within my womb. How beautiful is that?  

I moved across the country from all that I knew eloped and started a new life with my husband of now 6 years. It was wild and crazy and amazing and also so hard but worth every single second. My husband Skyler is apart of the Navy which means he was gone a lot. Not just a lot but most of my pregnancy and most of the first year of our oldest daughter Imogens life. By the time we had been married 3 years we had been together just over a year of that together.  It was a crazy time in our lives especially for having just been married. 

Because of the military that meant Skyler was unable to be around for most things. He was gone out to sea without being deployed for months at a time. In this time during my first pregnancy I explored a lot of options for support because of the unknown. Not knowing if he would be able to be there for birth of our daughter was terrifying. I did my research and came to know of Doulas. Immediately I began my search for a doula and to my dismay there was not a doula near my area. The closest had been just under 2 hours away. I was a little heartbroken because I did not know anyone in the area and needed someone to be there for me. 

What is a Doula?

I like to say a pregnant womans best friend. 

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Doulas provide pregnant/postpartum mothers and their families with informational, emotional, physical and spiritual support as well as breastfeeding and newborn care. 

Doulas Do Not Provide clinical support, diagnose or catch babies. 

Doulas help avoid intervention and can help be the bridge between mother and doctor. 

Doulas are the mothers voice when they can't be heard.

" Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers - strong, competent, capable mothers who themselves and know their inner strength. " 

Doulas nurture their mothers. They are the space holders. They create the birth the mother wants. No matter what kind of birth you have a doula always supports you.  

It is not a job, it is a calling. 

I always said that I would never work a day in my life and I meant that. Serving pregnant women and their families creating the birth experience they want and holding that space for them is a dream to me and I couldn't be happier. This year is the beginning of new chapter. I am closing the chapter of my child bearing years and achieving dreams that I have been wanting for a while. From the time I had Imogen I knew that this was something I wanted to do in my life. With my youngest child approaching his first birthday I have started my training and and studying to become a doula. I am taking clients currently and I am so excited for this new and beautiful journey. Email me at thelunadoula@gmail.com or find me on Instagram and Facebook @thelunadoula 

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New beginnings

New beginnings

I got thinking the other day why do we really just hold it all in? Why do we bottle all our emotions up until one day we explode? I feel like sharing our souls, our hearts with people, letting them know our most vulnerable moments really just lets them know how human we really are. How we really aren't that different at all. The more we take a moment to interpret our deepest secrets the more we can connect with others.

Vulnerability is terrifying. The courage it takes to reveal your heart is one of the most daunting... and yet rewarding experiences in life.

It will set you Free. 

The more soul searching I do the more vulnerable I feel.  

I am Vulnerable.

I am the definition of Vulnerability.

But we all are. I believe that is what makes us our own unique selves. Open to what the world has to say. What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful. There's a word for it. 

...Authentic.

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I have endured, I have been broken, I have known hardship, I have lost myself. But here I stand, still moving forward, growing stronger each day. I will never forget the harsh lessons in my life. They made me stronger. 

You shouldn't try to stop everything from happening. Sometimes you're supposed to feel awkward. Sometimes you're supposed to be vulnerable in front of people. Sometimes its necessary because it's all apart of you getting to the next part of yourself. You cannot protect yourself from sadness without also protecting yourself from happiness but the greatest risk any of us will ever take is to be seen as we are. 

There is something so brave and enduring about letting the world really know who we are. Sharing parts of our souls is vulnerable.. but from that vulnerability will come strength. 

Embracing the uncertainty. 

Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won't have a title until much later.

This year I have learned so much but being able to fully open my heart and welcome what the future has in store for me has not been easy but it has taught me a lot including that old ways will not open new doors. That I have to take a chance at life and just let come what may. 

This next year I have so many goals that I want to achieve and I am overly joyed that I can start new.  New opportunities, new people, new dreams, new places. I am ready to get out of my comfort zone and try new things and learn more about the person I want to be. 

Here's to new beginnings! Closing the doors on 2016 and opening the doors of 2017.

To the mom behind me at Target

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Dear Mom behind me at Target. Today I saw you having a hard time. Don't worry I have days like that too. I saw you talking to another woman when I spotted something dripping from your cart. As I mentioned it I also ran over to your little boy and took the shampoo bottle he had opened up and squeezed everywhere. I know you were upset and I saw everyone looking at you standing there. But I want you to know that not any kind of judgment even crossed my mind.  

My first thought was ask the closest employee for paper towels and get your little boy out of your cart. So I did. I don't know you. But what I do know is that in that moments time I would hope that somewhere out there another mom will do the same for me some day. In a moments time in a mothers world all hell can break loose at a drop of a hat. We all know that. I mean.. Have you ever been successful with getting your 3 year old to use the blue cup when they wanted the pink one? No? Don't worry me either. We know kids are crazy! 

I've been there. I am not judging you for one second. I actually contemplated on taking your little boy over to the snack bar so you could have a little bit of peace. Its usually my attempt to tame my lions which always consist of bags of popcorn and juice boxes to get through target which end up all over the floor. (Sorry target employees). I really wanted to give you a big hug and tell you that you aren't as crazy as you feel. You aren't a bad mother and that motherhood is just really freaking hard. 

Once I was grocery shopping with my 3 crazies I was at the checkout. The 3 year old in the cart. The 5 year old walking around and me wearing the baby. I wasn't a pleasant site. I was really stressed out and it was plain to see that I needed help. Another mom came up from behind me touched my shoulder and looked at me and said your doing okay. She then stopped me from bagging my groceries and bagged them for me. - Thank you to that mother from me. 

I hope the next time you see a struggling mother do what you can to reassure her that she is doing a good job. Encouraging words like this help more than you'll ever imagine. 

Autumn Tea + learning how to make your soul happy

Autumn Tea  

+ learning to make your soul happy

  1. Hot Apple Cider Tea 

  2. Pumpkin Spice

  3. Red Velvet Chocolate 

  4. Peppermint Chocolate

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These are my favorite teas to drink all year long but especially during Autumn.  They're delicious to drink with or without adding anything to them. My personal favorite is adding Amaretto creamer just a teaspoon to the red velvet chocolate or peppermint chocolate. The pumpkin spice is amazing with a hint of anise or eating it with a piece of caramel black licorice. And of course the apple cider adding a sprinkle of cinnamon or even teaspoon of caramel creamer. The possibilities are endless. 

And although I don't get to sit down and enjoy a cup of tea like I could pre-motherhood, sitting in my favorite spot with a good book and a journal to doodle or jot down a thought in a moments time is still one of my favorite things. 

I think when you become a mother you tend to put yourself last always. At least for myself if I cannot get all my chores done then sometimes I feel as though the things I want to do the most get put on the back shelf so to speak. When in reality at some point in the day we all really need to stop and just be one with the universe and take time to just live. To just enjoy each second. 

In a world where time never stops somehow

we must find the will to just make the time to make our souls happy 

I think humans are really just the robots of everyday life. When do we ever we stop? Do we just keep going and going and going until the fire within ourselves slowly turns into a small flicker of light then eventually burns out?

We need to force ourselves to slow down and enjoy life. One day we will look back and realize the little things were big things.

" The faster we live, the less emotion is left in the world. The slower we live, the deeper we feel the world around us. "

I think we owe it to ourselves to be able to indulge in all of life's mysterious and wonderous moments. Starting with doing the things we love the most. That is why I am making a list of all the things I want to do, things that make my soul happy. A simple list that I can go to pick a few things to do when I'm having a crazy moment something that will calm my soul.

  • painting
  • reading
  • writing
  • photography
  • running
  • yoga
  • listen to music
  • meditate
  • take a nature walk
  • unplug from the world
  • drink tea
  • pray
  • write a book
  • enjoy silence
  •  learn the act of not caring. Really it is freeing. 

The list is endless but this is my list. Life is too short to not treasure each minute because really whether it be good or bad each second we are alive its all a learning experience. Look for the good in all things. 

" She who is brave is free "