12 reasons why you need a Doula

12 Reasons Why You Need a Doula

For starters..

1. She is with you every step of the way - 100% percent of the way. Aside from mutually agreed upon naps incase of long labor Doulas are ABSOLUTELY with you the whole way. If you choose to birth in a hospital or medical center that has rotating shifts, when your nurse or doctors shift ends your doula is still there by your side. You dont have to worry about meeting a completely new person the same day you are about to go through a the biggest life change you've experienced thus far. Your doula will be there for you and your partner and family. 

2. Faster labor - Studies have shown that for mothers who have doulas attend their birth that in fact their labor is 25% percent shorter than mothers who do not have doulas. The continuous non-stop support that women do need also decreases the chances of unnecessary medical interventions. 

3. Helping prepare for birth - Whether your a first time mother or your a mother of 6 preparing yourself mentally, physically and emotionally for birth is so important. Doulas help do this by reminding the mother to eat and drink well. Exercise and being sure to do things that make you happy. They also help the mother prepare herself for birth by giving her suggestions or ideas of how she may want her birth to go. The little details that can be so important like delaying cord clamping, eye ointment applied or your wishes on vaccination. Doulas are awesome and can be super helpful in times like this. 

4. Gentle reminders of your birth plan - Labor is hard. Its just the way it is. And when it gets tough and you dont have a support system there with you it can sometimes feel like you never had a chance to have the birth you wanted. When I was in labor I constantly remember doctors and nurses telling me to get an epidural when I was breathing through contractions not supporting me in my desires for a natural birth. It is so relieving to have someone there with you who can gently remind you that this is hard but it won't last forever and they breathe with you and feel your pain with you and facilitate your birth to help you have the birth you want. 

5. Informational, Emotional, Educational and Spiritual Support -  You can never have enough of support and a doula is a trained professional in doing all of these wonderful things. She knows her stuff and is always prepared to cater to the specific individuals no matter the circumstance (assuming it is not medical). Your doula is very knowledgeable about the birth process and the emotional and physical changes that you will be experiencing. Knowledge is power. 

6. She sympathizes with you - She feels your pain with you. She is willing to do whatever it takes to get you through your birth. If it means sitting behind you fully clothed in a tub full of water during your birth she will do it. She is there to give you powerful words of encouragement and remind you that your body is capable of giving birth.

7. Boosts your confidence - Giving birth is a life changing experience and you need all the confidence you can have. Your doula is there to give you positive and loving affirmations during the easier and more difficult times during labor reminding you that your body can bring a beautiful human into this world.      

8. Reduces chances of cesarean section - Studies have shown that having a doula in attendance of your birth reduces the chances of having an emergency cesarean. According to research published in the American Journal of Public Health women who have a doula at 40% less likely to have a cesarean section. In a study from Dr. Marsden Wagner - Past Director of Women's and Childrens Health - World Health Organization has said that cesarean sections have increased from 10% to 20% from 1990s to 2000s during Monday through Friday. Having a doula also helping facilitate your birth increases your chance of not having unnecessary medical interventions. 

9. She will not judge you - " The 3 B's - Not My Birth, Not My Baby, Not My Body ". One thing I learned going through my training as a doula is that leaving your ego at the door is the first thing you need to do in a birth. Your doula is not here to make decisions for you, she is there to help guide you and facilitate your birth. She wants nothing more than for you to have the birth you dream of. Whether you want an induction and epidural or a water birth at home. Your doula does not care as long as you are happy. 

10. Coping Techniques - There isn't a mother in the world that during labor wouldnt give everything she has to avoid or decrease in some way the pain she is feeling. Its difficult but its apart of labor and it will bring your baby into the world. With that being said Doulas are trained professionals knowing how to decrease pain in labor without the use of drugs. From different labor position, massage, aromatherapy, hypnobirthing and more doulas are so knowledgable in comforting and encouraging laboring mothers and their family as well during the difficult times of labor while tailoring all her support to their specific individual needs. 

11. Extra help - This is a big one. Doulas can be there for you to help you through your labor contractions by doing hip squeezes and massages or they can be there for your husband who gets nervous about birth. Perhaps you are a single mother or your partner cannot be there with you for your birth and you just need someone to hold your hand. They can also help with children, doing things around the house. 

12. She can offer a variety of services. - Doulas come from all walks of life. They can offer a variety of services like postpartum care, placenta encapsulation and placenta art, photography for maternity, labor and birth as well as newborn photos. Some Doulas are trained and can offer bereavement skills for mothers who have expected a loss of a child. There are also many doulas who trained herbalist, aromatherapist, Hypnobirthing practitioners, belly binding, lactation specialists, child birth educator, spinning babies and rebozo trainers and so much more. The list is endless and there are many doulas out there that are a jack of all trades. Its like a one stop shop doula who can offer you all things you are looking for which in the end makes thing so much easier on the mother.  

Doulas are fairly new to the birth world but in reality they have been around for centuries. They may have not been called Doulas but they certainly believe and did the same things they do today. To be a doula you must be okay with serving those around you and sometimes that comes at a cost. But to simply put it, we do what we do because we love it, we love the mothers we love their babies and we love the beauty and process of birth. We love what we do. 


Positive Mantras for Breakfast - Choosing how to live your life.

Positive Mantras for breakfast. 

Choosing how to live your life. 

  1. I choose calm over anxiety
  2. I am present within myself
  3. I can center myself with the ease of my breath
  4. I feel grounded, confident, worthy & whole
  5. Feelings are not facts
  6. Don't let your mind bully your body
  7. I am doing my best. That is all I can expect of myself
  8. We rise by lifting others

" What you think, you become.

What you feel, you attract.

What you imagine, you create "

- Buddha


Its been about a month since I have written and I have missed it so much. Mom life gets crazy and there isn't enough hours in the day to get everything done. In that time Thanksgiving passed and Christmas is almost here. I haven't been able to paint much which makes me a little sad. I definitely realize that I did not take advantage of my free time before kids. I think I drank too much coffee in too many coffee shops while editing my photos than anything else. Anyways I have not been able to finish any painting since my Ivy-Rós (the little in the coral dress) decided to add to my last piece. And by add I mean she used black paint over a subtle watercolor autumn tones. It was not fixable unfortunately. I had my cry then turned the painting to face the wall so I didnt have to look at it. I love my kids but as a mom sometimes we forget ourselves. We lose our identities. And I'm not about to let everything I have go. I can be a mom and still do the things I love. I cannot just throw everything out the window. 

With that being said I am going to continue this journey finding me. There has to be a balance. I love being a mom but long after the kids are gone if I hate the person I've become then I will never forgive myself. 

" If you've lost your wings; you have got legs, keep walking.  If you've lost your legs; you have got arms; keep crawling.  If you've lost your arms; you have got your mouth, keep shouting. Lose whatever, but never ever lose your soul.

- Daniel Saint

I feel inspired to come out my comfort zone and do things I wouldn't normally do. Its true what they say about musicians who go through bad breaks up they write beautiful music. Not that I am going through a break up but I feel like I am grieving the death of someone that never died. It is the most bizarre feeling I've ever felt. Its distracted me from my art, from my kids, from my marriage from my whole life. I've decided only you can allow someone else to live rent free in your mind. Its time to pay up. I will no longer allow myself to feel hurt. I have learned a lot from this situation. I've learned that sometimes when you've hurt for a long time that one day one little thing can explode. 

Hate is stemmed from hurt. 

If you hate something or someone it is because you care enough about it or them to allow you to be hurt. 

Well I'm done. I've prayed and will continue to pray for you. But now its time to focus on the important things in my life. And more importantly my sweet children and husband deserve an apology because I haven't been completely there in my mind for a few months now. So I'm sorry. I love you. I'm grateful you have been there for me. I'm grateful you never left my side the countless nights that I've cried. I'm grateful that my children have been so patient. I'm grateful for their  love. 

I will forever take bad energy and make it something positive. 

We are not given a good life or a bad life.

We are given a life.

It's up to us to make it good or bad. 

Autumn Tea + learning how to make your soul happy

Autumn Tea  

+ learning to make your soul happy

  1. Hot Apple Cider Tea 

  2. Pumpkin Spice

  3. Red Velvet Chocolate 

  4. Peppermint Chocolate


These are my favorite teas to drink all year long but especially during Autumn.  They're delicious to drink with or without adding anything to them. My personal favorite is adding Amaretto creamer just a teaspoon to the red velvet chocolate or peppermint chocolate. The pumpkin spice is amazing with a hint of anise or eating it with a piece of caramel black licorice. And of course the apple cider adding a sprinkle of cinnamon or even teaspoon of caramel creamer. The possibilities are endless. 

And although I don't get to sit down and enjoy a cup of tea like I could pre-motherhood, sitting in my favorite spot with a good book and a journal to doodle or jot down a thought in a moments time is still one of my favorite things. 

I think when you become a mother you tend to put yourself last always. At least for myself if I cannot get all my chores done then sometimes I feel as though the things I want to do the most get put on the back shelf so to speak. When in reality at some point in the day we all really need to stop and just be one with the universe and take time to just live. To just enjoy each second. 

In a world where time never stops somehow

we must find the will to just make the time to make our souls happy 

I think humans are really just the robots of everyday life. When do we ever we stop? Do we just keep going and going and going until the fire within ourselves slowly turns into a small flicker of light then eventually burns out?

We need to force ourselves to slow down and enjoy life. One day we will look back and realize the little things were big things.

" The faster we live, the less emotion is left in the world. The slower we live, the deeper we feel the world around us. "

I think we owe it to ourselves to be able to indulge in all of life's mysterious and wonderous moments. Starting with doing the things we love the most. That is why I am making a list of all the things I want to do, things that make my soul happy. A simple list that I can go to pick a few things to do when I'm having a crazy moment something that will calm my soul.

  • painting
  • reading
  • writing
  • photography
  • running
  • yoga
  • listen to music
  • meditate
  • take a nature walk
  • unplug from the world
  • drink tea
  • pray
  • write a book
  • enjoy silence
  •  learn the act of not caring. Really it is freeing. 

The list is endless but this is my list. Life is too short to not treasure each minute because really whether it be good or bad each second we are alive its all a learning experience. Look for the good in all things. 

" She who is brave is free "